G-d never pushes you people push you ........

So Tomorrow a yahoo net buddy of mine is getting married and got me thinkin about my wedding all those years ago (yes i was married once) What a joke that turned out to be and one hell of a painful lession in self worth!!!!!
First I have gotta say that churches can so be arseholes i have found that alot of churches will push couples to get married at a young age this is so true in the moden christian churches as it is in the orthdox jews. It seems to me that they are more concerned with the fact that two young adults might be having sex than the fact that they are too young to marry and are still in that honeymoon period where everything seems so perfect.... I have seen it happan to me and others where two people in there early 20s are pushed to get married when they have been only a couple for a few mths or so .. It generaly starts with a church elder pulling you aside and saying how great it looks to see you in love and how G-d would would will you together and how they are praying for you and BULL shit like that. Then you get a senior paster saying that a union would be such a G-dly thing and if the two of you got married and worked in minstery together then you would be a great team for G-d and do great work ...... and he will prophetise over you and say this is good and G-ds work ........

Now take any twenty year old and tell they that its the right (adult thing) to do and next thing you know you are getting married to someone you dont even know that well....... YES it happans
Now when this stops working and you wake up and find you are married to someone you dont know then the real problems can start OK im sure it works sometimes and Im sure that it dosnt all go the way it did for me but i have seen it happan a few times so i am not just the odd one out here ... you feel pushed into marriage or more so talked into it because love is BLIND at first anyway and you dont take the time (at least a year more is better) to get to know someone.All you know is you are young and you want to please your G-d

I wont go into my story today i will save that for when i have a bottle of red wine beside me and i am in the mood to bleed!!! But for now know that it sucked for me and i see the church still doing this and it makes me mad....... For my friend reading this i Just hope he is not making my mistake and the mistake that so many christians make while the church is like this ........

Peace Sarah XOXO!