Yet again another bites the dust

I have been stewing on this post for about a week now and after getting permision from those involved (with name changes) I can finaly get it out ...

So Lets start at the begining when I use to go to church one of my good friends (yes i have friends) was just about to get married to a young upcoming preacher which was fantastic only for the fact that she was young and had not known the guy all that long but they seemed happy and i was happy for them at the time .. i guess looking back I did feel they were young and had only been going out for about 6 mths before hand but what did I know ..

anyway jumping fwd to a phone call I got a few weeks back from her .. she told me that they were spliting up and she needed help so anyway I helped her out by flying her to my place at Echo Point and giving her some of what she needed being space and cash and all the suport i could .. It was then she told me about all the pressure the church had put opon her at the time to get married and latter to stay married even though she was not happy and has not been for along time .. the echos of what happaned to me were very plan to me see my story and made feel some pain yet again

Now my thoughts are plain .. the church I feel really has it wrong here regarding relationships between boys and girls, men and women, I feel that relationship should be left alone for people to work out and not used as a tool for the church to get involved and pressure people into the whole marriage thing .. (do i sound like a scorned woman) I hope not I am just saying that i feel the motives behind their thinking are more concerned about kids having sex than about what is best for the couple involved !!!!

If all sin is equal then sex is no more sinful than lying about something or having thoughts about someone elses wife or hubby something i am sure we have all done at one time or another (perhaps its just me) but really guys sex is not the big deal that some preachers make it out to be .... One preacher that I actually admire for the most part John King even went so far to say that when a man breaks a girls hyman on there weding night that blood forms a blood covernet between the two (miss spelt) I dont know if thats true or not but I gotta say Its a hard perfect world he is living in if he thinks that is the case ...

I guess in what i am trying to say is SHAME on the church that pressures young people to get married SHAME on the church that trys to control the interaction between the sexes and SHAME on the church that dosnt act as Christ did ...

I believe that while the church persists in this manner than they should expect what they now have and that is a divorice rate the same as the world around them .. but I would also add that included in that 50% of church relationships failing they should also include that normally one or both partys fall away from the church !!!! what is wrong with these people ????

anyway had do get that one off my chest ..

love and light to you all
especialy all my married and Church loving friends
peace and hugz to you
Sarah xoxoxoxox

P.S blogger will not let me upload photos .. that sux !!! bloger beta can kiss my skinny white arse !